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What Your Kid Really Thinks Of Your “Sports Parenting”

What Your Kid Really Thinks Of Your “Sports Parenting”

Let’s be honest. You think you’re great. Walking up and down the sideline, cutting in front of other parents trying to enjoy watching a game their kid loves. You’re telling your kid to be more aggressive. Get out there and cover him, you say. Attack him, you say. All the while telling yourself that you’re just trying to help. That you’re trying to help make little Tommy, or Sally or whatever the hell you named your kid a better player.

But if we continue being honest, everything you’re yelling is the complete opposite of what the coach just told them in the huddle. The coaches want the kids to “stay home” and not over-commit. They don’t want the kids being too aggressive and making silly checks.

And since honesty has been our thing so far here, the reality is, you my friend are a huge douche nozzle.  I know it.  The lady over there trying to see around you sure as hell knows it. As do the 50 or so other fans scattered up and down the sideline, who you’ve totally disregarded as you pace up and down the sideline oblivious there are others gracing your presence.

AND I HAVEN’T EVEN GOTTEN TO YOUR KID YET! Your kid is mortified. He/She won’t say anything to you, either out of fear of upsetting you or hurting your feelings because they know how much time “you” devote to their favorite sport. They know how much you’ve spent on their equipment, travel teams and so on. So they are susceptible to being quiet on the topic of you shouting at them all game long. After all, you’ve drilled it into their brain that you are just trying to help.

But they know what coach just said. EVEN WORSE, they know if they don’t appease you in some manner, your idiot mouth is going to keep running, and running, and shouting, and yelling, and generally making a fool of your idiot face.

Your poor kid is trying to focus on what is in FRONT of them, and they can’t do that while you’re constantly yelling counterproductive crap at them from the SIDE.

Your kid’s opponent asks them, is that your dad?  And your poor kid has to answer yes. Sometimes after acknowledging the psycho on the sidelines is their father (or mother) they will find a sympathetic player who has lived the same experience. But other times, your kid will face ridicule and will actually get picked on and bullied while on the field because of your moronic behavior.

What you don’t realize, is however well-intentioned you are, you are a huge hindrance to your child’s development. Their coaches are there to instruct and teach them the game while ON THE FIELD.

OFF THE FIELD, You can do all you want, but while at practice, or during a game, your job is to enjoy and encourage. To cheer and to hold up in victory or defeat. To pay close attention to every detail of the game so that if you really want to help, you can intelligently discuss and instruct POST-game. You can discuss what your kid did well, you can ask them what they think they need to work on and so on.

And who the hell am I to judge? Why am I qualified to tell you how it is? Because I have coached 5 years of youth lacrosse and travel lacrosse, 4 years of high school lacrosse and 6 years of college lacrosse. I have officiated 3 years of summer and winter leagues and have been an actual paid official at the modified through varsity level the past two seasons. I played this game I love from the time I was in 5th grade all the way up into my mid 30’s.

I am quite literally one of the MOST QUALIFIED PEOPLE ON THE FACE OF THE PLANET EARTH TO CALL YOU OUT ON THIS BEHAVIOR.  I have experienced parents and fans from all sides of the ball.  I’ve been a player that endured the heckling of a couple of these types of dads and I wasn’t even their kid. I’ve been a fan/relative of players and have sat in the stands with people like you. I have been the coach of the player you were instructing to do the opposite of what I just told him to do. I have been an official that has taken your abuse, and in almost every case, your argument was just plain wrong and was borderline gibberish.

But my biggest qualification for being the the right guy to call you out for your behavior is this… As a coach, post-game, in the locker room, I witnessed a kid address the entire team to apologize for the behavior of his father. And I saw how he tried to use humor to cover his shame. Shame over something he had no control over, and that in reality had nothing to do with him.

So while at the game, please, oh please, I beg you to take a good look at yourself. Take a look around and realize that there are only 4 or 5 of you at this entire game. The rest of us just want to enjoy it, and you’re not only ruining the experience for us, but you’re ruining the experience for your own damn kid.

AND PLEASE, to the 97% of parents out there that don’t fall into this category, take no offence.  I know we all fall victim to some douche nozzlery here and there.  We can’t help it.  Yes, we will yell at a ref (I’ve been both the yeller, and the yelled at).  We’ll question a coach’s decision.  We’ll get down on a kid despite the fact in hindsight, that’s stupid.  I’m not talking to you.  We all fall victim to our lesser selves from time to time.  This is directed at those 2 or 3 parents at every game that make us all look like saints.

Two-Man Lacrosse, Offensive Strategy and Drills

Two-Man Lacrosse, Offensive Strategy and Drills

I’ve become obsessed with the two-man game in the sport of lacrosse and I stumbled upon a video below from the 2014 NCAA Championship game where Duke ran a mix of 1-3-2, 3-1-2 and 2-3-1 sets all working out three “pairs”. My obsession became complete, and that started this post, which will grow over time as I add in more and more useful information. So here goes…

What Is The Two-Man Game?

On-ball picks started this trend many moons ago. Hopkins was one of the first ones I remember really running hard with picking for the ball carrier over and over again on ever possession, although I know many others employed this strategy long before.

Slowly but surely math one out.  In a 6v6 set, if someone wins their 1v1 matchup, you’re left with a 5v4 situation. If you win a 2v2 matchup, you often end up with a 4v3 numbers advantage once the ball carrier draws the hot defender. So more and more teams started working a lot more 2v2 matchups into their schemes. What’s not to like? You can even go big/little and dodge an attacker or mid with a pole guarding them off a pick set by a player with a short-stick defender trying to get the switch allowing a second dodge with a better match up.

One of the best demonstrations of a basic two-man game you’ll ever see by Ryan Boyle…

Enter The “Pairs” Set

As mentioned above, I stumbled upon the video below of Duke running their “pairs” set in the 2014 National Championship game. The idea is, you break your six offensive players up into three “pairs”. The paired up players work almost exclusively together picking, dodging, slipping and attempting to draw a slide. One pair attacks from out top down to GLE on the right, the other on the left with the 3rd pair operating between X and GLE.  So we are breaking the field up into three sections, and allowing each pair to operate almost exclusively within that area.

What I love most about a set like this is it lends itself well to players of any level.  You can teach this concept to youth kids with great success, summer travel teams where you have limited time to teach offensive schemes, all the way up to elite D1 colleges as you’ll see below with Duke.

Duke Owning the “Pairs” Philosophy

This video below is a great demonstration of how to execute a true “pairs” set, allowing each group to attack the field over and over from the areas they are most comfortable and effective.

They are great to run for summer and travel teams. You have limited practice time for summer, fall and winter travel teams, and pairing players up, and allowing them to work on their “2-man game” as the travel season plays out is both simple and effective.  There are a never ending supply of drills that can be used in practice to constantly work and on and improve the 2-man game, so as the summer wears on, sometimes into fall, the kids slowly but surely begin to perfect the scheme, and suddenly the 2-man game looks like a 6-man game.

Drills in practice that you can do to work the two-man game….

Two-Man/Pairs Shooting Drill

Great drill to practice the mechanics of the pick, slip and bail.  I actually like going from this drill right into quick one-v-one’s and then right into two-v-two’s and continue putting to practice the things they work on with this shooting drill.

2-On-2 Drills

Next up, you work in 2v2 drills, attacking from the same areas shown in the video above and just like Duke does in the first video. The key here is everyone rotates around and attacks from all angles, left, right and from X (diagram or video coming).

6-on-6 Drills

One of the main goals of the two-man game is to get the defenders to slip up and get a step for either yourself or your partner. This sometimes results in quick goals. However, when the slide comes from elsewhere, the two-man game becomes a three-man game. So out of your 6-on-6 set, have each pair practice dodging and working their area until they draw a slide and then immediately pass the ball on to one of the other two pairs, either through an adjacent pass, or preferably through reversing the ball back to your partner that just slipped under so he can pass the ball on to the weak side (diagram or video coming).

Orange Come Back to Muzzle Danes

Orange Come Back to Muzzle Danes

An amazing game from start to finish, with Albany giving the Cuse faithful a bit of a scare, but true to form, Cuse found their stride in the 3rd quarter, and never looked back.

SYRACUSE, N.Y. – After trailing 6-2 at the half, the No. 8 seed Syracuse men’s lacrosse team dominated the second half of its NCAA Tournament first round game at the Carrier Dome on Sunday night, outscoring Albany 9-3 to advance to the quarterfinals by a final tally of 11-9. The Orange advance to face No. 1 seed Maryland in the quarterfinals on Saturday in a noon start in Providence, Rhode Island. The Terps advanced with a 13-6 win over Quinnipiac.

Source: Syracuse University Athletics – Orange Come Back to Muzzle Danes

#1 Terps Advance to NCAA Quarterfinals

#1 Terps Advance to NCAA Quarterfinals

Maryland proved it was deserving of the #1 seed (not that anyone doubted that), but they’ve got to be scratching their heads wondering how the #1 seed ends up playing the ACC Tourney Winner and #4 team in the country, Syracuse in the second round of the tournament. The committee screwed the pooch on the seedings this year putting Cuse at #8 which is now a negative for both programs.

The No. 1 Maryland men’s lacrosse team defeated Quinnipiac, 13-6, in the first round of the NCAA Tournament Sunday afternoon at Capital One Field at Maryland Stadium.

Source: #1 Terps Advance to NCAA Quarterfinals – Maryland Terrapins Athletics – University of Maryland Terps Official Athletic Site

Bucknell Mids Get Some Against The Mount In Bison Win

Bucknell Mids Get Some Against The Mount In Bison Win

Bucknell rode an eight-goal effort from their first midfield line and a record day from freshman faceoff specialist Jarett Witzal to a 15-10 victory over visiting Mount St Mary’s on Friday evening.

Witzal was the key in the victory winning an astounding 21 of 27 draws which helped Bucknell dominate possession. Had Witzal not totally schooled his opponents, this game would have gone down to the wire as The Mount out-shot the Bison over the first three periods despite the huge possession disparity.

Both Bucknell and Mount St Mary’s have thus far posted winning records, and have looked decent at times. Both are jockeying for position in their conference tourney’s and both are currently sitting in or near the last spot, meaning each really needed this win in the event non-conference tie breakers came into play for tourney seeding. #AdvantageBucknell

Bucknell will host Lafayette in a near must-win conference match-up on 4/15 and Mount St Mary’s will take UMBC at home on 4/12.

Hopkins Holds Off Ohio State, Petro Gets Win 175

Hopkins Holds Off Ohio State, Petro Gets Win 175

Hopkins handled their business and downed Ohio State 13-12 at home on Saturday. Hopkins dropped two of their last four games (without head coach and legend Dave Pietramala on the sideline due to an infection in his back), losing to Virginia and Rutgers, and needed this conference win badly. Pietramala was back on the sidelines Saturday for the first time in more than a month, picking up his 175th win as boss for the Jays.

Ohio State on the other hand seems to be holding the title for best team with a losing record, dropping their last three games by a combined three goals. Granted all three games were against ranked opponents, losing to #1 ND and #14 Penn State and now #16 Johns Hopkins by a goal in each contest.

Hopkins controlled for most of the game, their lead hanging at around 2 or 3 goals for a good portion of the contest. But the Buckeye’s used a big save by goalie Tom Carey to go on a run and get back to within a goal of the Jay’s.

Hopkins took a 13-12 lead going into the final quarter. It took ten minutes for a ball to find the back of the net in the fourth, with Bluejay John Crawley scoring on an man-up goal with 4:03 remaining and it turned out to be the “eventual” game-winner.  Ohio State would put one more on the board with 94 seconds to play, but the Buckeye’s couldn’t force overtime, turning the ball over with ten seconds to play.

Johns Hopkins will visit Penn State in an important conference matchup on 4/17 and Ohio State will host hated rival Michigan on 4/16.

Hobart Pesky At Home But The Orange Prevail

Hobart Pesky At Home But The Orange Prevail

It would have been a great night for a game under the lights if not for the wind as #10 Syracuse rolled into Geneva to take on Hobart for the 102nd time, the third-longest rivalry in college lacrosse.

Jordan Evans (4 goals) and company were tested early in the second half seeing Hobart fire off three-straight goals bringing them to within a goal of the Orange off a goal by Bryan Hancock.

Hobart won the ensuing faceoff down one, with a chance to get even for the first time and Evan Molloy decided to close the gates on Hobart, making an amazing kick save, deflecting the ball off his left leg on the would-be game-tying goal. Syracuse wasted their next possession, allowing Hobart another chance to tie, and Molloy made another great save.

Sergio Salcido (2g, 3a) took advantage of Molloy suddenly becoming a wall and scored at the 6:49 mark in the third, ending the nearly 14-minute drought. From there Cuse took the fight out of the dog scoring five more goals to finish the contest, bringing the Kraus-Simmons Trophy home with the 13-6 win.

Molloy finished the game with seven saves, four of them coming in that key third-quarter stand allowing the Orange to separate for good.

Dylan Donahue, who had been unusually quiet the game prior against Notre Dame, got back in the mix with two goals and a helper and Nick Mariano matched Donahue’s output with a 2 and 1 outing as well.

WHAT WE KNOW – CUSE OFFENSE GOES DRY AT TIMES…

Cuse is still prone to going quiet for spurts on the offensive side of the ball. It’s hard to pinpoint why. I think it’s a live and die by the sword kind of thing. Salcido and Mariano are explosive at times thanks to their skill and aggressive styles of play, but with that, they are prone to taking a few bad shots that often result in easy clears or fast break opportunities for the opposing team.

Turnovers have also been an issue at times and certainly played a huge roll in their three-game losing streak. Turnovers hurt them a little bit today as well.

WHAT WE KNOW – BEN WILLIAMS CLOSED THE DOOR…

Teams have started to figure Ben Williams out, and it’s been apparent at times this season as we’ve seen him lose some key face-offs down the stretch. Tonight, after losing three of five during the third quarter that saw Hobart draw close, he won four of five in the fourth quarter and effectively buried Hobart’s chances at getting any closer.

I think this has less to do with teams “figuring Williams out” and more to do with them realizing that their best chance is to not let him win the draw alone, something he did amazingly well last season and through the start of this season.

Teams are attacking him, and waiting for the Orange wing players to step up. At times they have, and that will have to continue if we want to advance past the quarter-finals in the NCAA’s this spring.

WHAT WE KNOW – ATTACKING THE CUSE DEFENSE LIKE YOUR LIFE IS ON THE LINE WINS YOU POINTS

Cuse held a lead against Hopkins, they blew it. They held a lead against Duke, they blew it. Notre Dame played like they were five goals down the entire game, and ended up winning 17-7 at the dome.

Tonight, Hobart goes down 5-0, gets back to 5-2, goes down 7-2, gets back to 7-6. They got back in it because they got a bit more aggressive and at that point had nothing to lose.

It seems that aggressive, almost reckless offensive play is a strategy more teams should explore.

WHAT WE KNOW – ENTER EVAN MOLLOY

With all of that said, Warren Hill played simply terrible in his last 3 outings. He’s have moments of looking good, maybe even great, and would come out in the second half and give up goal after goal. GRANTED, not all were his fault, but a goalie at this caliber has to stop the ball from going in the net, and Hill just wasn’t doing that at key moments in games.

Molloy did tonight what Hill has failed to do in the last three games. He stopped two shots when it counted most. Both shots were fairly uncontested and were pretty great plays on the ball. He did so in his first career start. So it’s fair for us to be optimistic here.

WHAT WE KNOW – SPENCER SCHMITT GOT BEAT … A LOT

I wouldn’t pick on this kid, especially given his limited minutes, except his time has come in some close games, and he seems to be getting beat all over the field.  If I’m noticing it from my couch, other teams are noticing it while reviewing tape and trying to find the chinks in Cuse’s defensive armor.